Turning Our Disabilities Into Financial Harmony


For the better part of my forty-six years of life, I’ve been shy in the romance department, due to a near-death experience I had at fifteen years old, which was a violent attack by a man, leaving me with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

To say the least, I wasn’t about to be running toward any romantic relationship or marriage any time soon after that. 

Of course I wasn’t. Of course you weren’t either, if you’ve ever been through anything like that, too.

To say the most (say more say more 😂 ) I was terrified of men after that experience, and because I was so young, it generalized out toward all people. 

As a child, whose brain is still developing, which mine still was, our brains are engaged in concrete thinking the most. So, in my brain, it looked like this: “if one human being is capable of threatening my life, then all people are.” 

I had witnessed violence in my family previous to my near-death experience, that solidified this social fear as a teen, too.

So it was going to take time for me to trust men, or any human being, again.

Shyness with people became my way. When I wasn’t getting drunk or going to dance clubs with the friends I did have from school, I preferred nature and the company of animals, over people.

Meantime my emotional and social experience of life was much like that of a burn victim’s physical experience of life:

-I was extremely sensitive.

-I was always on edge, especially if a man was trying to court me.

-I felt helpless, a lot, so my relationships tended to be like parent-child/codependent/caregiver-patient type relationships. 

It’s hard to mature, and evolve into your next level of life when every emotion moving through you is like the wind blowing on raw, open skin.

You can’t even think, let alone self-actualize.

Unless you study emotional health specifically, or grow up with parents who did, emotional lability is not something people understand readily, so when someone is emotionally reactive, as many people with PTSD are, their loved ones take it personally, then naturally distance themselves, leaving the afflicted person with even more proof that connecting with people is a bad idea. 

I felt helpless. Weird. Different. Broken. Like I was missing something that everyone else had. 

And because PTSD is considered a disability in most countries, I now had an official label slapped on me. Disabled. Defunct. Not functioning—that is how I felt, after being highly sociable in elementary school and the first part of high school, winning regional public speaking competitions for my school, maintaining an A average in school.

I internalized and lived with that identity for a long time 😩 

It took me years to resolve those wounds enough to restore myself back to a naturally sociable state.

It was my period of mastering the art of turning our disabilities into financial harmony.

Are you ready for yours, too?

I had heard for years that the key to happiness was to appreciate what we have, that stuff that is *not* the trauma, in our lives.

Because my trauma happened at such a young age, I needed to go through a period when my trauma was all-consuming, before I could begin to appreciate what else my life was for, what joy, abundance, and the fulfillment I had always experienced in creating success for myself, was still available to me—like in my school, my cousins, my friends, my soccer team, for example.

Full presence with our traumas as we heal them is the first step. Then we move into a phase of seeing our so-called disabilities, as a difference, a uniqueness – one that is not bad, but beautiful! And very much needed in the world.

For me, that looked like starting to appreciate my sensitivities, my connection to nature, and using my natural, empathic qualities for good, to help others, while finding appreciation and enjoyment in my qualities, myself.

My regular focus on appreciation and my consistent practice of it, then allowed me to return to who I was before the traumas, with even more joy, abundance, and success than ever before.

This is possible for you, too – no matter what your past traumas look like.

We can do this, together.

Send me a message OR CLICK HERE if you’d like to talk about private 1:1 coaching with me. I’m opening up three new spaces for the fast approaching New Year’s Resolution season.

Let’s go!


Published by GinaSilvestri

Success Champion for Women Entrepreneurs Since 2009

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