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There are certain people out there who, when we let them, will play our empathic energies like violins, creating music that has us running the wrong way on our Rags to Riches journey, which is straight back to that “rags” life that caused so much suffering.
Last month, I started writing about toxic personalities, and how our connections with them affect our Rags to Riches journey.
I originally started these conversations during Domestic Violence Awareness month, but I’ve decided to keep them going, all year, whenever I feel inspired.
Today is one of those days. We’re pulling our money manifesting power back in from sources that have taken it from us, consciously, or unconsciously.
The toxic personality type doing the kind of pulling that we’re addressing in this series today, is one that uses reactive abuse to control us.
I’ll be demonstrating, with examples, how reactive abuse works, and what havoc it can wreak when we’re not aware and equipped to manage it like the Rags to Riches Queens we were born to be, and of course, what to do about it.
Just keep this one thing in mind, before we start: abuse is never about money, sex, or obsessive love or anything the movies or these personalities try to convince us their behaviour is about—it’s about power and control, every time.
Let’s dive in, shall we?
What Is Reactive Abuse?
Have you ever found yourself yelling or calling someone names “out of nowhere?”
Meaning, you’re not normally someone who loses her cool like this, but it came up and out of you, in a certain situation, shocking even yourself with its power, its force, and yes, what would be, in any other context, considered “abusive” quality.
Context is key here though, because in order for it to be considered reactive abuse, you must be reacting to someone else’s behaviour.
Being cut off in traffic, in a way that nearly causes an accident, is a situation we can all relate to, that generates our “out of character” reactions.
In this traffic situation, if you really were cut off, and your life really was threatened, in your perception, then most people would understand, and think nothing of, your reaction. Right?
It’s because of these circumstances, that, while it’s up to us to keep a healthy distance from people who provoke us, and we are responsible for our own behaviour, always, and in all ways, psychology and even the law will give us a pass, in certain situations.
These are the exact behaviours I’m writing about today—the ones that set you up to behave in what would otherwise be considered “abusive”(and even unlawful) ways.
That is reactive abuse. It’s you reacting, to a “set up” by a toxic person—whether that trap was laid on purpose, or accidentally/unconsciously, due to an unconscious abuse pattern he or she has playing out in their energy.
I’ll give you more examples throughout the rest of this series, but for now, another concrete example from nature, is that of a Mama Bear, whose cubs are threatened.
When cubs are threatened in any way, shape or form, a healthy Mama Bear goes “no holds barred” ape-shit bananas on whomever is threatening them. She is out for blood, for death. She will kill to protect her young.
Because she is wired that way. Everything in her biology will have her reacting in this way, when her babies are threatened. Expecting her to act any other way is what’s unfair, wrong, and yes, abusive.
*END OF PART 1*
—We’ll be diving into Part 2 next time, which is all about laying traps for such reactive abuse, “on purpose.” In the meantime, if you’d like to join my community, to work through this and anything else affecting your path to thriving with money, as you were born to, together, CLICK HERE.
IF YOU ARE READING THIS AND IN A CRISIS SITUATION . . .
PLEASE NOTE THAT BECAUSE I AM A SOLO BUSINESS OWNER WHO DOES NOT OFFER 24 HOURS A DAY CRISIS OR EMERGENCY SUPPORT, I STILL WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE *NEVER* ALONE AND I WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU KNOW HOW MUCH SUPPORT IS OUT THERE FOR YOU.
If you need urgent medical or psychiatric attention, need help in an emergency or are in crisis:
Visit your local emergency department, general hospital or call 911.
Call your local non-emergency police phone number and ask for victim services.
Google “domestic violence women shelter” for your area – they are open 24 hours and their staff is always ready to handle crisis phone calls.
Call a CRISIS HOTLINE – they are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week – there are always warm hearts there to hear you and talk to you. They *really* do help! Here is a list that I have researched for my area:
-Assaulted Women’s Helpline: 416 863-0511; Toll-free: 1 866 863-0511
-24 Hour Rape Crisis Line: Call 604-872-8212 for free, confidential, phone based crisis intervention, information, and referral.
-Women Against Violence Against Women (WAVAW) Rape Crisis Centre: Call 604-255-6344 or toll free 1-877-392-7583 for confidential, immediate, emotional support, information, referrals, and hospital accompaniment. Available 24 hours a day.