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It feels yucky when people tell me “you’ve done it before, so you can do it again.”
I know they mean well, I know sometimes they’re right, sometimes it is THAT simple – but other times? More often than not?
There’s A LOT more to it than that.
Untangling ourselves from a place of stuckness involves an openness to digging down into the roots – the deep emotional roots of exactly what’s stopping us, so we can move forward again.
🛑 It doesn’t have to take long, be endlessly painstaking and depressing, or require you to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on a therapist’s sofa for ten years.
Being precise in the uprooting, de tangling and re-planting is what gets you unstuck, for good. Accurate identification is everything!
Most people won’t do this deep work — and I get it!!
It’s scary to “go there” sometimes, to feel that deep pain (if even for a moment!) ..
… but this is why most people stay stuck, why they stay same same, wishing things were different, wishing they had that success “over there.”
It’s also why most people don’t succeed in creating the life they want.
It’s never over there, it’s always deep within you. Just grab onto courage, and go in.
PS … I have a powerful group of women gathered online to journal together, to identify and tap into THE THINGS, every day, from Monday to Friday on Facebook live. Visit MoveYourPen.com for details.
Moving from exhaustion to thriving on a regular basis especially during times like this, looks like learning to love consistency.
🤦🏻♀️ I used to have SUCH a hard time with that, which is why I’m writing this post!!
As a Canadian born 🇨🇦 woman of Italian 🇮🇹 descent I was so tired of constraints placed upon me, I just needed to be wildin’
I needed to feel SO FREE that nothing held me down …
🔥 🔥 🔥 I felt the burn of being a woman with no roots tethering her to her purpose in this life.
I’m talking confused about my identity (do I follow my precious old school Nonna and Biz Nonna’s path?? Or the white Canadian way since I was born here??)
I’m talking confused about how to be in relationship with a man because of how loud feminists are every day in my face, conflicting with my quiet voice inside telling me it has to be more loving, gentle, more nurturing than that.
I’m talking confusion around my body image, my health, what to eat, what not to eat, is it okay to “let go” as I get older and what do I do if I can’t stop “letting go” because that thing has got a life of its own?? (😂😂😂)
🤷🏻♀️ 🤷🏻♀️ 🤷🏻♀️ And what about my harsh inner voice criticizing me for not being consistent all day long? How am I gonna bust through THAT to even begin “kinda” liking consistency, let alone actually practicing and DOING it??
—the ONLY thing that worked was to start very small, very slow, one step at a time, doing exactly what my soul loved and wanted to and felt strongly to do.
Move my pen, of course!
I’ve loved journaling and writing since I was a young girl and when I committed to it daily, every day … like EVERY single day, the benefit I received from it made any past resistance around consistency melt away.
This post is getting long so I won’t write a giant list of benefits, tho there are MANY, I’ll just share the biggest one:
Getting attuned to our souls by writing in our journals DAILY is the point of life – seriously.
📢 📣 I mean, there’s SO MUCH noise in the world, most of us are running around not knowing what we really truly deeply want – we’re just listening to what everyone else wants, going along with them, ending up exhausted, dissatisfied, unhealthy on every level.
That’s what I did! I didn’t understand the value of leading my own life, starting with the deepest part of my soul.
Tuning into my desires there, FIRST, before I do anything else, then learning how to communicate gracefully, while at the same time experiencing fulfillment by living the life I was destined and born to live.
Visit my site MOVEYOURPEN.com if you’re feeling me and want to learn to love consistency too, and become WAY MORE efficient by leading yourself to where you truly want to go.
It’s 15 minutes a day, watching your self trust grow, because you’re showing up for you every day —never giving up on you!
It’s watching the benefits of staying consistent blossom in your life – the women who write with us every day are AHHHMAZING!!
Women who’ve been through trauma often choose the cage….I know because I was one of them.
It felt safer there. I didn’t know how to manage the *one thing* that comes with the freedom of cageless life, that, in a world of “you can have it all” memes, very few people are talking about: *PRESSURE*
🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ It’s what made me collapse and run back to my cage, every time.
I didn’t know how to manage the pressure that goes along with freedom.
I wasn’t friends with it, I barely ever even looked it in the eyes.
Deep down I was terrified of dealing with any extra pressure, because every time I tried, I’d end up feeling more exhausted, more discombobulated, more worried, more stressed than ever.
THEN the most uncomfortable sensation that went along with caged life for me: not trusting myself.
😑 Not trusting myself to put food on my table, consistently. No matter what.
😑 Not trusting myself to face the unknown in every new day, with confidence, with full access to my resourcefulness.
😑 Most of all, not trusting myself to enact and uphold my own protection around me, so I could see those bars making up my former sense of protection, THAT CAGE, for what they were: a false sense of safety and security.
… because PTSD is all about safety, right?
And women with PTSD symptoms can’t take care of themselves, they can’t keep themselves safe and thriving, right?
They’re helpless and doomed, right?
So so so SO wrong.
Our power lies in taking healing into our own hands. Realizing that not everybody’s PTSD looks the same, not everybody’s healing pace follows a medical textbook path.
Realizing that what doctors or anyone around us “know” about PTSD or anything else, isn’t even close to what we know, in our souls.
✨ self-knowing is a power nobody can touch ✨
—and it remains in tact, in full integrity, when we stop handing it off to others, which only takes a second of our time to quit doing.
✋ stop giving them (government, romantic partners, family, friends, clients, anyone) the keys to a cage that, deep down, we don’t really want to be living in.
Because deep down? We know the truth:
That we’re just a little (or a lot) scared, and we don’t want to be alone.
the cage is not real, AND
we are way more powerful than we think: we can more than handle this and any other kind of pressure life blasts our way.
We can learn whatever emotional intelligence, empowered communication, survival, or protection skills we gotta learn, to have our outside life reflect that unstoppable inner resilience that has us living exactly how we want to be living right now.
Nobody else’s paw prints which we have to seek permission from all over our lives.
If you’ve worked in the corporate world you’ll know what I mean….
😫🤪😫🤪 I just wanted to grab her and shake her (that chained part of me) right out of her cage.
When I finally left my job to start my own business, I wanted to scream every time she popped in and out of my energy: “STOP with the stepford entrepreneur routine already!!”
💛💜💚💙❤️ we cant help it, I get it. We want to feel safe. We want to not think, just for a second. We want someone else to take the wheel once in a while because we want to RELAX … of course we do!!!
This “her” I’m talking about is an older version of me, though, who was programmed for no moments of relaxing, just work work work (gotta pay those bills) – that part of me kept me trapped and encaged in situations I couldn’t stand.
Like showing up to “work” that exhausted me, wearing bland “work suits” speaking like a robot, saying what they wanted me to say, acting how they wanted me to act, forever covering up, muffling, hiding true me.
I wore those corporate outfits like straight jackets, when every day, all I really wanted to do? Was rip her open.
Stop valuing their system, their way of doing life, how they see things over mine, me, ME… what I knew inside could be my system, my way of doing things, how I saw things, if I would only let it 🧡
Stop trying to fit in somewhere I don’t even like, deep down respect, or actually want to become – again, of the time I was just there to make money, to pay bills…that kept me chained 99.9% of the time.
I had to release those money fears.
Release the fear that I wouldn’t know what to do, how to handle things, that I wouldn’t make it, if I branched out onto my own.
“Don’t do it,” she said.
“Don’t veer too much that way,
you’ll stick out,
people will knock you down, hard.
🤔 🤔 🤔 but something about being fully truly me didn’t feel right. It felt like a lie I had accidentally swallowed, like taking the wrong pill.
The part of me that KNEW I could do it was losing her wobble, was releasing her pattern of collapsing into anyone and anything I interpreted as more powerful than me (more lies).
💥 The second I realized what was happening, I let out a scream for the ages, cried on the forest floor, as I do every time gutteral, visceral change happens,
then I kneeled down before her
told her “You did what you came to do, you can go now.”
and I was free.
Trying to “be positive” 24/7 is exactly like drinking, drugging, gambling, overeating or any other addiction.
Too many humans are out there saying “you’ve just got to be more positive” or “your mindset is not in the right place”—which leads to hiding, stuffing, numbing, avoiding or pretending negative emotions don’t exist altogether.
—YET, how the brain works?
When you numb one feeling, you numb them all.
*read that again*
You can’t eat chips to numb out anxiety ( 🙋🏻♀️ me!! I used to do that) or douse yourself in positive affirmations to pretend you’re not sad.
BUT you can enjoy chips sometimes! Use positive affirmations to complement your grounded, energetically healthy state of being 💯
The real work, to build and maintain a healthy infrastructure? is to FEELING YOUR FEELS.
😢 It’s ok to be sad.
😦 It’s ok to be scared, even terrified at times.
😡 It’s ok to be hurt, angry, frustrated, annoyed too.
What’s not ok, is pretending you’re not feeling anything, ESPECIALLY if you’re an entrepreneur, where risk
—read: facing the unknown, hence feeling scared at times—
is an essential part of the game we play on a daily basis.
Just feel them, let the emotions and feels play out, all the way through.
After you do, your energy body will breathe, you’ll hear your instinct again, then know exactly what to do next, every time.
THEN you’ll be free to feel joy, uplifted, excited, energized —the socially acceptable feels that can’t happen without feeling the other ones too.
PS. Emotional mastery is *essential* when getting your life story down on paper, because you visit all kinds of emotional places as you write, and you want to present your story in a grounded, healthy, empowered way so it can help people.
I just opened 2 spaces open for 2 hour intensives to get your life story outline down and done, plus your step by step plan, so you know exactly what to write AND any questions you have answered. Contact me for all the deets ✨ (my social media pages are all listed at very bottom of my home page WOOHOOitsdone.com)
Some of y’all are giving online coaches and mentors wayyy too much power right now – so here, let me show you how to take your power back.
When you hear them pushing “mental toughness” ???
Ask the ONLY guide that matters in your life right now and always, the top of the top dog, the only Beyoncé in your world worthy of your total, blind obedience: ✨YOUR SOUL ✨
Just ask this simple question: Am I entering the arena of growth right now, yes or no?
—If the answer is yes? Keep listening to them.
—But is the answer is no?
Block ‘em if that’s what you need to do right now to shut off the noise (especially if they’ve sneakily started colluding with self-sabotaging voices in your head, without you noticing, until now!).
🙂 you can always re-follow, press play again later, unblock WHEN YOU ARE READY 🙂
They don’t know better than you. Because the best mentors? At the top of their game? With the largest audiences (trust me I’ve hired them lol)?
💛✨They will always guide you BACK TO YOU.💛✨
I have always done this with my clients too, because I’m here to *empower* you, not have you depending on me for advice for the rest of your life.
The healthiest mentor/mentor relationships are not based in need (though it may FEEL that way, especially when you first start working together) — they are actually based in 💜 desire 💜
💜 DESIRE to have someone walk the next part of your life/business/health/relationship journey with you.
💜 DESIRE to make things go faster (they have a lot of shortcuts).
💜 DESIRE to laugh along the way—like pee-your-pants laugh as the load of doing everything alone is lifted off you, then you realize you can actually enjoy every bit of the ride (it’s really always just a choice).
💜 DESIRE to make it feel easy, because they’ve already moved the mountain you’re currently moving, so it’s not stressful to them.
Your heart comes first. It’s what guides everything, it’s the gateway to your soul, which is the only mentor you ever NEED in life.
✨✨✨Your soul is your #1 life guide, ALWAYS + IN ALL WAYS ✨✨✨
So when you hear coaches/mentors (including myself!) say, “keep going, no matter what” it does *not* EVER mean against your inner direction.
When I say this kind of thing it’s prefaced by me saying “you’re in the arena already” or “you’re here because you already know this, for yourself and within yourself” or “you want this result over here, so you’re in the energy of going after it already, this is the way.”
—> that’s because you’re the ONLY one who can enter any kind of growth arena.
You choose FIRST, because you were guided internally, THEN you invite people along for your ride.
🚗✨You’re in front, leading the trip, led by your soul, they’re your amazing team peeps hopping along for the ride, willingly taking a back seat to your soul’s guidance and direction.
You’re in front, they’re in back when it comes to your life.
Not the other way around.
Don’t give anybody else that power!
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You can learn to hold the pressure … you can even have fun while you do.
💥 the pressure of staring down the blank page, after watching YEARS (maybe even decades) go by without you getting your life story down on paper yet.
💥 energies moving through you – all kinds of them, including from your social media audience and every single person who reads your life story.
💥 you beating yourself up inside for not having your life story down on paper yet.
💥 money pressures that wanna squeeze the life right out of you, especially as you carve out time, to get your story down and done.
💥 stress and any health predicaments that show up for you and others you care about and love.
💥 the pressure of re-visiting each moment of the slice of life story you know you’re meant to share with the world – you GET TO learn to master this pressure, so nothing from the past will hold power over you ever again.
💥 people you love, in your personal life, going through their stuff: even being cruel to you at times.
💥 annoying people, loud people, even violent people (note: nothing about this says TOLERATE…this is about holding whatever happens, when it pops into your life unexpectedly).
💥 the pressure of what’s happening in the world right now.
You can hold it all, stay grounded, sit in your truth, wisdom, strength,
No. Matter. What.
You’ll trust yourself to move through ANY energy you come across while getting your life story down, delivered and done ✅
People around you will feel safer to be fuly themselves as you do 💙💗
Money will pour in and stay in, now that there’s a welcoming, solid, stable energetic container for it to land in 💵 💰
Your mental, emotional, physical health will soar! At an energetic level, you become untouchable ✨ 💪 ✨
PS Your life story is meant to be birthed into this world 🌎 ✨
Will you show up for it, to master all you get to master, while getting it down on paper, done, then delivered tot the world?
My group of 🌟 Life Story Superstars 🌟 has gathered and we meet DAILY, Monday to Friday, for 15 minutes, on Facebook Live, to do this work, to make mastery a habit.
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I’ve always loved “JUST BE YOU” messages …
but they also really confused me, and pissed me off.
I mean, I loved BEING ME,
the only reason i was reading other people’s stuff online,
was because I needed to be a me
*WHO MADE MONEY* too!
So telling me to “just be me” and the money will flow like magic, made me CRAY CRAY.
It had me spinning, real bad….
🤷🏻♀️ was it a trick?
🤷🏻♀️ was I being duped?
🤷🏻♀️outright lied to??
I didn’t get it.
What the F does that even mean,
make money being me,
when “me” literally has zero money in me’s bank account?
—🤔 🧐 Something was missing.
Of course, I didn’t want to CHANGE me altogether, I just wanted to add whatever that thing was that I was missing, that was stopping me from being prolific in the finance department.
So the only thing I knew to do was save save save my money, to finally talk to one of these mentors I so deeply admired, who kept telling me to be me, be me, be me!!!
😀 🦋💰 💕those mentors telling me to be me if I wanted to make all the monies 😀🦋💰 💕
When I finally did, I GOT IT.
All the money I invested in them seemed insignificant, like what they taught me, was worth SO MUCH MORE.
That if I wanted to, I could access even more money, to work with them more…
…because popping in their energy had me accessing THE ENERGY of the unlimited universal bank accounts we all have access to.
When we concentrate on THE ENERGY of things, first….so what we really want even has a chance to manifest in the physical, in the first place!!
(that’s what they’re all gonna tell you, some version of that…which is gold….trust me 😉 )
What have you got to lose in trying this coat on when you’re broke anyway?
So choose a pretty coat you like,
and get on with it.
It’s the pattern interrupt you need,
to get out of the spinning.
To stop the CRAY…
and return to YOU.
Being you … all the way you,
this time with da money.
PS…Spinning-stopping sessions going on daily in my Life Story Superstar membership group, if you want a place to practice all this with INCREDIBLE women—details and register in my bio link and here: https://woohooitsdone.com/membership/
I was shocked to see what I was doing to myself, before I finally reached the place where I had cleared up enough inner stuff to publish my memoir.
It was a “look up to the sky, talk to the Universe” moment:
🤷🏻♀️ You mean to tell me, that my struggle bus with money had to do with my romantic relationships with men, all along?
🤷🏻♀️ That those romances were meant for me to see that nothing could really bring me security, except me?
🤷🏻♀️ That until I felt solid, whole, complete, stable and sovereign within myself, my business would stay at a “manageable” size, preventing me from experiencing my dream for it to grow, grow, GROW?
🤷🏻♀️ That I could never have *ever* finished my book without working through all this first, because writing a book is holding people, holding community, through powerful transformation….
💪 and you gotta be strong enough to hold that, in order to live in the frequency of powerful transformative author? 💪
Universe (Nodding): Yes, yes that’s right.